I believe we can all agree that it is impossible to be liked all the time by everyone and it is great that we don’t need to live within the confines of being acceptable to society. It is human nature to be judgmental, hey that’s how we operate right? Ponder on this:
1. You’re also judgmental
ooh yes, you are! At some point in our lives, we’ve become judgmental of something or someone. What about your own judgments? You might not be living your life authentically because you are your first bigger judge, you have probably limited or prevented yourself from a lot of opportunities due to the judgments you hold. You feel confident only when you stop judging yourself.
2. Understand you can’t avoid judgment
you can never stop people from judging you no matter who or what you are, what you do or don’t do. Judgment is a moment’s thing; it never lasts so stop taking it personally. Anyway, why care what they think? Worrying is a complete waste of your time that accomplishes nothing and changes nothing. You absolutely can never have control over what others think of you.
3. If it feels right, do it
do what feels right to you and do whatever you really want to do. You might not go in the right direction with the first attempt but failing means you learn and you have a chance to try again. You rather fail and be judged for it than not trying at all. While people are busy judging, continue trying because in your failures you’re better than a thousand judges who never try. They will do what they want to do so why do you have to stop? If it feels right just do it.
4. Never compare yourself
You criticize and belittle yourself if you are in comparison to others. Remember you are an individual who is beautiful and a wonder to everybody because you are a unique creation. You are the best version of yourself, you are complete and enough. The irony of it is that whether you judge others or you are being judged, they are enough just as you are enough.
5. You make mistakes
mistakes do not define you; they allow you to practically explore yourself. You know what you are capable of and in the midst of your journey you are bound to make mistakes and people are going to look and voice out their opinions. When that happens do not hide from them just take a breath and move on. You make mistakes but you are not your mistakes. To err is human!!
6. Control your thoughts
you might be judging yourself more than everybody combined. You might also be so hard on yourself to a point of being self-distractive. Do not let it spiral out of control and if it does, remember the above-mentioned points. Take a breather and remember that no matter who you are, whether you do right or wrong, you will be judged and you can’t stop it.
7. Define yourself
no one can tell you who you are. Do not allow anyone to dictate who you are, what you are capable of, or how you can do you. Be you, do you, and make judgment irrelevant by trusting your abilities. People are entitled to their own thoughts and opinions.
8. invest in yourself
take a step to go through your personal challenges so you can improve on areas you want to develop. Start doing things you’ve always wanted to do, prioritize your needs, harness your qualities and own them. Have quality time for yourself.
As we navigate through life, people’s words can be hurtful and affect how we actually shape our own beliefs. You are less likely to be yourself if you’re truly aware of your strengths and shortcomings. You have to implement these steps on a daily to get lasting results.
Fear of judgment makes you avoid being vocal about what you want, it creates setbacks and it limits you. If you succumb to judgment, it means you consider other people’s opinions to be more valuable than yourself. Stop chasing approval from others, be happy to let them judge, do not hold back, and move away from what is unhealthy for you. You don’t have to be 100% confident all the time but keep moving forward!!
**WORRY OVER JUDGMENT IS THE ENEMY THAT DETERS YOU FROM EXPRESSING YOUR UNDISPUTED ORIGIN. THE WORLD STILL NEEDS WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER, DESPITE THE CRITICS**