In a relationship where you find yourself doing everything to ensure it works while your partner is doing absolutely nothing and not bothered? Best believe you are in it alone and reality is, you are in a one-sided relationship and you are actually single. In this scenario a relationship is merely a title that drains your energy. Your happiness, it also wastes your time and drives the potential partner away. These kinds of relationships can cause depression, self-doubt or insecurities and other negative emotions. Relationships involve emotions and time so lookout for signs of a one-sided relationship to save yourself from heartaches and headaches.
1. You get support only in good times
check how is the treatment all the time, in bad and good times. Do you get emotional support during the challenges you come across? Do you feel love only when things are rosy? Your answers to these questions will help you determine if your relationship is just status or the real deal. Partners should always be ready to carry each other at all times and their true love to be strongly identified in both the bad and the good times. A man who is into it with you will never allow you to go through bad times alone no matter the circumstances.
2. No interest in things you’re doing
If he shows no interest in anything you’re doing like your personal dreams then he is not part of that relationship. A partner should show interest in your activities by asking questions, offering a helping hand, advice, expressing how they feel about certain things you do, and sharing ideas.
3. Constant nagging
if you have turned into a nag to get attention or to get things done and he shows no interest, chances are he is no longer into the relationship. You will complain and that won’t change a thing but he will act when he wants something. Nagging will be a habit because you’ll feel like you’re exclusively responsible to make things work.
4. There is no progress
the relationship will become stagnant because there will be no focus on development. The priority will only be based on an individual need rather than the well-being of the relationship. At times your partner might show affection but with no interest in discussing the future leaving you more used than loved.
5. You’re making excuses for his behavior
if you find yourself making excuses for him it’s a sign that he doesn’t value you and the partnership. You are sacrificing too much and justifying his actions. For example; he will miss your important event because his plans with friends are better or you cancel your friend’s bridal shower for his movie night.
6. You apologize for his faults
no relationship is immune to fights and you can never be at fault every single time. Resolving conflicts supposed to be a team effort not a one-person responsibility.
7. You initiate everything
you are the one who initiates making plans, small conversations, texting or bringing up issues but he doesn’t do the same. The romantic gestures are also never appreciated or reciprocated.
8. Your plans are only according to his schedule
he always comes up with excuses so you only do things when it is convenient to him because he always cancels or reschedules to fit his own plans
9. You feel insecure
insecurity knocks because your efforts aren’t going anywhere. You begin to wonder and question your worth. It is only natural to feel you aren’t enough when your needs are not met.
10. Lack of communication
you will find yourself discussing more of your problems with friends rather than your partner. It is good to get advice or an opinion from outside but the problems have to be discussed between the two people involved to find better solutions. You tiptoe around certain issues finding it hard to open up and there is no certainty of where you genuinely stand or how the person truly feels.
These are some of the red flags that show you might be in a one-sided relationship. If you are in this kind of relationship your options are to move on or try to work things out should you feel it is worth it. One-sided relationship happens more often and they never really work out for the simple reason that one person is no longer emotionally involved. People are selfish and deceitful by leading other people on while they are already emotionally detached. A person will keep you in their life as a backup for the rainy days. This is because they don’t want to be alone while trying to find your replacement.
It is unfortunate that the one who is more invested will be hurt and left with so much pain. We all understand that people change. They fall in & out of love yet we find it too difficult to understand whenever we find ourselves in the very same situation. When reality strikes, it is always never easy to accept it. Remember that you are worthy and you deserve better. Be aware and rectify the situation for your own well-being.
**IMBALANCED RELATIONSHIP EQUATES TO FREQUENT HEARTBREAKING MOMENTS**